It’s very easy to take a pessimistic stance on the world with every hurdle that is placed in front of us on a daily basis. Traffic jams, train delays, sick co-workers that come into the office and just general schedule constraints.
To quote Eleanor Roosevelt: “life is what you make of it, always has been, always will be.”
Let that sink in for a minute. Life is what you make of it.
I used to be easily discouraged and extremely pessimistic because I focused so much on the negative; because it was easy to do? Because I had done it for so long? I don’t have a solid answer for that but until recently I had never stopped to realize all of the positive things that contested the negativity.
Finding the Zen in it all:
For every seemingly bad or negative event that occurs there is opportunity, or a challenge, for us to find the zen in it. Here are some positive examples of ways I have started to retrain my brain to think:
Train delays: Enjoy being in the moment. Take the extra time to catch up on some reading, research something to do this weekend, listen to that album you downloaded but haven’t’ had time for.
Traffic Jam: Enjoy the solitude. This is your personal space that you control. You are sitting, the seat is comfortable and you control the climate and radio. Enjoy the immediate surroundings and don’t obsess about the finish line.
Changing your perspective on everyday occurrences will help you in many other areas of life as well. You’ll start to realize there is good in all the bad, a yin to every yang. Managing stress will become easier and you will start to become genuinely happier.
This is not an overnight process and has taken me some time to acclimate to. One of the core things I try to keep in mind is that the grass is not always greener on the other side. Life is what you make of it.